“Because we need to call the feeling one has after a great loss something, we call it “grief,” but anyone who has experienced it knows that this is just a word assigned to what is, in its shifting, horrible, massive complexity, unnameable. This book is an effort to rename this feeling. It should take at least that number of words and pages to begin to do so. One could say the entire book is a new name, the name of this emotion one can feel after such a loss.”—Matthew Zapruder contributes a new Last Book of Poems I Loved: “Death Tractates” By Brenda Hillman. (via therumpus)
“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.”—Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free (via fuckyeahexistentialism)
“Don’t think about what can happen in a month. Don’t think about what can happen in a year. Just focus on the 24 hours in front of you and do what you can to get closer to where you want to be.”—Eric Thomas (via moaka)
i don’t trust people who are super into “proper grammar” and “correct punctuation” because what lies just beyond that smug superiority is some sinister classism that gets acutely racist in a red hot minute, so for similar reasons I’m instantly wary of anyone who takes great pride in their love of “logic” and “intellect”
i have no time for professors or people in general who don’t even attempt to pronounce your name correctly and dismiss you when you try to correct them. this guest professor butchered my name numerous times and I told him the correct pronunciation for the third time and he completely dismissed me and said “yeah yeah, you” and pointed at me.
if someone refuses to take fifteen seconds to learn how to pronounce your name then don’t even fucking acknowledge them let alone give them an actual response.
Me:Est-ce que tu aimes le sexe? Le sexe, je veux dire : l'activité physique, le coït. Tu aimes ça? Tu ne t'intéresses pas au sexe ? Les hommes pensent que les féministes détestent le sexe mais c'est une activité très stimulante et naturelle que les femmes adorent
“It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I’d been taught about myself, and half-believed, before I was able to walk on this earth as though I had a right to be here.”—James Baldwin (via perfect)
First off, that is an awful title. The video can be found here.
Respect to the woman that had the courage to talk about her experience.
The video was incomplete. Lacking in conveying the gravity of the situation. Sound effects did not help with that.
It was a lot like his bullying experiment; harmful to this video because rape culture is not (just) about the bystanders.
Rape culture is institutionalized, victims are blamed and denied justice. That is not simply because a bystander did not intervene.
The entire video was an emotionally violent trigger. The only effective bits were the woman sharing her experience and the statistics.
The experiment itself was entirely pointless. It had no purpose, and was damaging to the entire purpose of rape awareness.
It was an honest effort, but it lacked depth and understanding of rape culture and its institutional roots. It was misleading.
Rape is very different from bullying; it usually happens in the absence of bystanders, and it is rooted in patriarchal entitlement. Bystanders play a very, very small role when it comes to rape, if they play one at all.
There is no room for brownie points in matters of Justice. The video was not awful, but it was not helpful, either. He failed to make the nuances and root causes of rape culture evident. It is not about bystander non-action; it is about the lack of institutional support for rape victims, and perpetuation of patriarchal ideals of how to be fair.
Fousey has a large follower base; he should inform himself first, and then use his popularity to educate others, instead of getting them riled up without purpose in a manner that harms the movement.
“If you do all that work of figuring out exactly how writing is done, then it’s available to you at anytime, and you can build on it. It’s like the difference between shooting one hoop and having it go in by accident and saying later, ‘I shot a basket,’ – and practicing so much you can do it whenever you want.”—Mark Salzman (via writingquotes)
Alright, so I’m in the elevator and these two Asian girls are arguing with this white guy, talking about whitewashing history 101 (ya know, we learn about all these white dudes by default but THE REST OF FUCKING HISTORY is “niche”).
And this dude was all like “history is written by the victors” and “Europeans were the only people who wrote anything.” and they they were the most populous. Bitch please. The only reason you soggy asses can take philosophy is because we wrote it down in Arabic for you. EVERYONE has been writing things while you were shitting in your drinking water.
I wanted to chime in so bad. I honestly don’t know how non-passing PoC handle this bullshit.
WHILE YOU WERE SHITTING IN YOUR DRINKING WATER HAHAHAHAA
“No one leaves home unless home is the mouth of a shark.
You only run for the border when you see the whole city running as well.
Your neighbours running faster than you, your breath bloody in their throats
and the boy you went to school with who kissed you dizzy behind the old tin factory is holding a gun bigger than his body.
You only leave home when home won’t let you stay.
No one leaves home unless home chases you, fire under feet, hot blood in your belly
and even then you carry the anthem under your breath, only tearing up your passport
in airport toilets, sobbing
as each mouthful of paper made it clear that you would not be going back.
You have to understand,
no one would put their children in a boat unless the sea is safer than the land.
No one burns their palms under trains, beneath carriages.
No one spends days and nights in the gall bladder of a truck feeding on newspaper
unless the miles travelled mean something more than journey.
No one crawls under fences,
wants to be beaten, wants to be pitied.
No one chooses refugee camps or strip searches where your body is left aching,
or prison, because prison is safer than a city of fire,
and one prison guard in the night is safer than fourteen men who look like your father.
No one could take it.
Could stomach it.
No one’s skin would be tough enough.
‘Go home blacks’, ‘refugees”, ‘dirty immigrants’, ‘asylum seekers’.
‘Sucking our country dry’.
‘Niggers with their hands out’. ‘They smell strange’, ‘savage’.
‘Messed up their own country and now they want to mess up ours?’
How do the words ‘dirty looks’ roll off your back?
And maybe it’s because the blow is softer than a limb torn off.
Or the words are more tender than fourteen men between your legs.
Insults are easier to swallow than rubble, than bone, than your child’s body in pieces.
‘I wanna go home.’
But home is the mouth of a shark.
Home is the barrel of a gun.
And no one would leave home unless home chases you to the shore.
Unless home told you to quicken your legs.
Leave your clothes behind. Crawl for the desert.
Wade for the oceans.
Drown. Save. Be hungry. Beg.
Forget pride, your survival is more important.
No one leaves home unless home is a sweaty voice in your ear, saying
‘Leave. Run away from me now. I don’t know what I’ve become,
but I know that anywhere is safer than here.’”—Warsan Shire, Home is the Barrel of a Gun (via ashgureey)
why is "hate breeds more hate" a bad thing to say?
Oh so many reasons.
1) it equates the anger of the oppressed to the hate of their oppressors.
2) it blames oppressed groups for their oppression. Bigotry doesn’t exist because people hate bigots. It exists because oppressed people oppose it. It exists because of bigots and because of privileged folks being complicit or tacitly condoning systems of oppression.
3) it’s fundamentally untrue. Hatred of oppression doesn’t lead to more hatred; it leads to progress.
4) it is used to attack any attempt by oppressed people to obtain liberation. Point out that something or someone is repulsively racist and all of a sudden you’re “breeding more hate”.
It’s a fundamental misrepresentation of reality that blames victims and excuses fucked up behavior.
“The idea that sex is something a woman gives a man, and she loses something when she does that, which again for me is nonsense. I want us to raise girls differently where boys and girls start to see sexuality as something that they own, rather than something that a boy takes from a girl.”—
"White Allies" PLEASE STOP. This blog that is so wonderfully run is for POC. It is our safe space, it is where we can share our experiences, our thoughts, our feelings, and you are ruining this for us. You call yourself an ally and then you barge your way into our space then get mad when we get pissed off. Just fucking stop! Your opinions, you thoughts, your what the fuck ever is not necessary here. If you find the need to message these nice people about how you're a good ally, YOU'RE NOT.